1. Getting Over Sadness
I know its sad when you first break up with someone and all you do is think about all the memories about that person and how almost every place and song reminds you of them. But remember you have a life ahead of you happiness is hard so you have to work for it. Just remember that those memories are just that memories and that you will make more of them. I noticed I was filled with sadness when I would have idle time on my hand and my mind would wander back to him. Lewie Advice: Only you can affect your emotions if you dwell on the negative then only negativity will come to you but if you tell yourself i will get over this I will move on then you have no choice but to do so!
2. Anger
Oh I do this the best, me and this emotion most of the time end up hand and hand, I don't really think my anger is at the other person most of the time, I feel like most of the time its at myself for being so stupid to try and assume all people will treat me as good as I treat them. Don't get me wrong I know I make mistakes but no serious mistakes like being unfaithful or not being supportive. I Know you might want to key there car or tell there new girlfriend or boyfriend all the bad things you can think of and hey it may make you feel better now but in the end it is just a second of pleasure.They don't deserve someone as great as you anyway. SMILE OKAY? Lewie Advice: The longer you hold on to anger the more sadder and unstable you become, if you allow yourself to let go of all your anger you make your self happy and able to move on to bigger and better things.
3. ALB
The most know stages ALB: Active,Lonely Blame. Active is when you do every activity making cakes and pies, learning how to do new hobbies, travel doing things that keep your mind occupied with task that you wouldn't normally do this is also a time where you start to become lonely and blame yourself or everyone around you.This is also the time where some become very sexually active. The worst part of this stage to me is loneliness, because even thou I try to stay busy its always one part of the day when my mind is running back to the thoughts of me and my ex, and loneliness consumes me and I start to blame myself. Wondering if I was a good girlfriend or did I always give a 150% of myself the whole time. Did I do everything I was suppose to do, did i handle every situation with poise? Lewie Advice: Continue to be active, and if your using sex to cover up your sadness please wrap it up and find some help you don't need to feel that way.Everyone gets lonely but if your starting to feel depressed please find someone to talk to a friend , a family member, someone who will listen and give you good advice I feel like my best advice comes from complete strangers.Don't play the blame game you both had part in this break up so why should you be the one taking all of the blame.
Do's & Don'ts
- Do Listen to music Lily Allen- Smile, Beyonce -The Best Thing I Never Had, Eamon - Fuck You, Ceelo Green Fuck You, P!nk- So What, Avril Lavigne - What the hell, Case- Missing You, Wale- Friends And Stangers Wale - The Break Up Song, Simple plan- I Can't Be perfect, Blink-182 Miss You. Many other songs
- Don't fell sorry for yourself
- Do grab some of your favorite comfort food and pig out.
- Don't contact your ex.
- Don't set a time frame for yourself to be in a another realtionship
- Do Date
- Do go out and party
- Don't Soak in sorrow
Remember it will all be okay we all go threw break ups let go and move on, more importantly SMILE
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